Valerie Lumbley

REFERENCE MATERIALS

Abuse and Trauma

• Controlling People: How to Recognize, Understand, and Deal With People Who Try to Control You

• Emotional Blackmail: When the People In Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You

• The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals the Protect us From Violence

Addiction

• 12 Smart Thing to Do When the Booze and Drugs are Gone

• Willpower’s Not Enough

• Courage to Change

• Craving for Ecstasy: How Our Passions Become Addictions and What We Can Do About Them 

Adolescence

• Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls

• Odd Girl Out, Revised and Updated: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls

• Lost Boys : Why Our Sons Turn Violent and How We Can Save Them

• Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys

Behavior

• Changing for Good

Boundaries

• Where to Draw the Line: How to Set Healthy Boundaries Every Day

• When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life

• How to Have That Difficult Conversation You've Been Avoiding

Business Coaching

• The Power of Focus: How to Hit Your Business, Financial, and Personal Targets with Absolute Certainty

• The Complete Idiot's Guide to Vision Boards

• Self-Promotion for the Creative Person: Get the Word Out About Who You Are and What You Do

• Million Dollar Consulting: The Professionals Guide To a Growing Practice

• The Tipping Point

• Never Eat Alone

Note:  If you are interested in advanced coaching learning the skills of setting a clear intent and harnessing the power of your subconscious mind to achieve your goals, please talk to me personally.

Codependency

• Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes From, and How It Sabotages Our Lives

• Codependents Guide to the Twelve Steps

• Language of Letting Go

• Codependent No More

• Codependent No More Workbook

Depression and Anxiety

• Telling Yourself the Truth: Find Your Way Out of Depression, Anxiety, Fear, Anger, and Other Common Problems

• The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques: Understanding How Your Brain Makes You Anxious and What You Can Do to Change It

• What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety

• I Don’t Want to Talk About It

• The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression

Divorce Recovery 

• The Courage to Love Again: Creating Happy, Healthy Relationships After Divorce

• Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends

• How to Fall out of Love: How to Free Yourself of Love That Hurts and Find the Love That Heals

• Healing the Divorced Heart

• Happy Tails: How Pets Can Help You Survive Divorce

Eating Disorders

• Inner Harvest: Daily Meditations for Recovery from Eating Disorders

• 8 Keys to Recovery from an Eating Disorder: Effective Strategies from Therapeutic Practice and Personal Experience

• Eating By the Light of the Moon

• When Your Child Has an Eating Disorder

• Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls

• The Secret Language of Eating Disorders : The Revolutionary New Approach to Understanding and Curing Anorexia and Bulimia

Elder Care 

• Coping With Your Difficult Older Parent: A Guide for Stressed Out Children

• Caring for Yourself While Caring for Your Aging Parents: How to Survive

• How to Care for Aging Parents

Grief

• The Journey Through Grief

• Understanding your Grief

• Healing After the Loss: Daily Meditations for working thought Grief

• The Lord Is My Shepherd: a Psalm for the Grieving

• Swamplands of the Soul: New Life in Dismal Places

Individuation

• Immortal Diamond: The Search for Our True Self

• Creating a Life: Finding Your Individual Path

• How Survivors of Troubled Families Rise Above Adversity

• The Hero's Journey

• The Hero Has a Thousand Faces

• The Soul's Code

MEDITATION

• Secrets of Meditation: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace and Personal Transformation

Men

• King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Masculine

• From Wild Man to Wise Man: Reflections on Male Spirituality

• God's in Everyman: Archetypes That Shape Men's Lives

• Immortal Diamond: The Search for Our True Self

Nutrition for Mental Health

• Mental Health, Naturally: The Family Guide to Holistic Care for a Healthy Mind and Body

• Healing with Whole Foods: Asian Traditions and Modern Nutrition (note: for advanced students)

• Optimum Nutrition for the Mind

• Juicing for Life: A Guide to the Benefits of Fresh Fruit and Vegetable Juicing

Parenting

• Raising Children You Can Live With: A Guide for Frustrated Parents

• Traits of a Healthy Family: Fifteen Traits Commonly Found in Healthy Families by Those Who Work With Them

• Relational Parenting

• Positive Discipline

Post-Traumatic Church Disorder

• The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse

• Exposing Spiritual Abuse: How to Rediscover Gods Love When the Church Has Let You Down

• Blue Like Jazz: Nonreligious Thoughts on Christian Spirituality

Relationships

• The Eden Project: In Search of the Magical Other

• Healing A Broken Heart: A Guided Journal Through the Four Seasons of Relationship Recovery

• Passionate Marriage: Love, Sex, and Intimacy in Emotionally Committed Relationships

• He, She and We by Robert A. Johnson

Second Half of Life

• Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Finally, Really Grow Up

• What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life

• Living Your Unlived Life: Coping with Unrealized Dreams and Fulfilling Your Purpose in the Second Half of Life

Spiral Dynamics

• A Theory of Everything: An Integral Vision for Business, Politics, Science and Spirituality

• Integral Life Practice: A 21st Century Blueprint for Physical Health, Emotional Balance, Mental Clarity, and Spiritual Awakening.

Spirituality

• The Happiness Hypothesis: Finding Modern Truth in Ancient Wisdom

• Man's Search For Meaning

• The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

Women

• Women Who Run with the Wolves

• The Heroine's Journey

• Goddesses in Everywoman: Powerful Archetypes in Women's Lives

• Soul Sisters: The Five Sacred Qualities of a Woman's Soul

• Immortal Diamond: The Search for Our True Self

Psychology Journals

• Psychology Today

• Psych Central